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Helping Your Child Build Courage That Will Increase Concentration

16/12/2008 by

By Teresa A. Morgan

Courage is confidence, and confidence separates individuals who are successful from those people who settled for less in life. Confidence comes with experience, and it's something people acquire with skill and knowledge.

So what does all of this have to do with your child? How does courage relate to concentration?

Giving your children a skill-set in concentration and other vital skills will give them the confidence they need to reach success. It will give them the courage to withstand social pressure and be confident in their abilities. Low self-esteem can devastate a person and have a debilitating effect on their life and lead to depression that consumes the mind. The key is to develop your child's confidence and courage to conquer any obstacle they may encounter EARLY in their life so they will be well equipped to handle any situation they may face as an adult.

When a person lacks courage, they will inevitably prevent themselves from reaching success. A lack of personal courage is marked by the propensity to vacillate when making decisions. This hesitation and "back-and-forth" nature distracts a person from concentrating on a task that will help them accomplish their goals. People who are hesitant when making decisions and lack a steady purpose generally lack courage, or confidence, to tackle the unknown or encounter obstacles. Bottom line: if your child becomes an adult with no courage, they run the risk of being plagued by financial, mental, and moral difficulties.

Courage encompasses so much more. For a child and a teenager (and even an adult), courage gives them the strength to not submit to other people's opinions. Furthermore, a courageous person will be naturally attracted to other courageous people, giving a person a quality group of people to associate with and learn in their daily interactions. You want your impressionable child to have a quality "referent group" of friends so the outside influence is productive, as opposed to friends that can destroy your child.

The problem with other people's opinions is that it can distract an individual from concentrating on their goals. Perhaps they make you feel silly or not qualified, and for many people, that's enough to discourage them from a pursuit. A person with courage is not as approval-seeking as weaker individuals.

As a parent, you can empower your child with the skill-set to make them not only courageous in their social interactions and life decisions, but also improve their concentration so they won't be distracted from their goals.

For more information, check out http://www.concentrationfreereport.com

If you have any experiences or problems you'd like to share about concentration for children,
please feel free to shoot me an e-mail at concentrationforchildren@gmail.com. I'd love to discuss it
with you or perhaps give you some information to help out.

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Creating Quality Time With Your Children Even When You Don't Have Time

16/12/2008 by

By Kate B Smith

In the modern world, most parents are both working, and the children either spend the day at a child-care centre, or are 'key-carrying children' (that is, they come home from school and use their own personal keys to open the door, and wait for their parents to return from work). Most of the time, you, the parents, who storm in the door after a hard day of work, want to get everything done in the little time that is left (may it be chores, house repairs, computer work, a favorite TV show, making phone calls, and more).

Very often, you are angry with your children, as they have not yet finished their homework, or they've messed up their rooms, or they did not make themselves anything to eat yet, and so on. Without even noticing it, you keep putting off your children's demands, even if they attach themselves to your legs. You try to do as much as you can and accommodate for your child's wishes, and you do it during dinner or during bath time, but unfortunately by that point, your children have driven you mad or have given up and are fixed to the computer or TV. Do not complain about all the hours your child spends lazily in front of the TV or computer screen. This is the bad case. The even worse case is that your child would forget what they want to share with you. Your child would get used to not sharing his or her problems and needs with you which unfortunately will create a reality that your child cuts you, the parent, out of their emotional growth.

Just imagine, what if you were stuck for an additional 30 minutes or hour in traffic on the way home from work, or if you had to work overtime? What if you had to stop on the way back from work to visit a friend or a sick aunt? You should not treat these delays as trivial.

Every day when you return home, put your bag aside, sit in the centre of the house, and call your children to you. Now is the time. The whole day, your children have waited to tell you something very important that happened to them. And if you make them used to the fact that as soon as you enter the door they have your full attention, they will run to you happily, tell, and share. Ask your kids questions and encourage them. "How was your day?" Listen to all the little details. If you're persistent, you'll immediately notice many issues and problems when they are just arising. You will be able to nip them in the bud. Make your kids used to the fact that you are there for them, and that everything else can wait. This will also have an immediate positive effect on your kids' self esteem. Listen from a positive, constructive place.

Give a sense of protection and encouragement. With the years, it will be completely clear to your children that you are there for them at any time, not just there in the background, but there with them in the picture. For example, when a little boy tells his Mom that today the teacher punished him for something he did, the Mom responds that all in all, the teacher did the right thing. Even the boy knows that. He learnt a lesson. But that's not what he expected from his Mom. He expects that she'll ask and be interested. "How was it to be punished? What did you go through?" The boy needs to remember that even if he was wrong, and the teacher was correct to punish him, that his Mom is on his side showing sympathy and empathy. Only then, and only in the case that the punishment was not justified, should his Mom address the topic of the teacher's choice of punishment.

The calm, accepting atmosphere that you create will produce an environment of 'quality time'. From there, it will be much easier for you and your children to choose together what to do with the rest of the evening.

Do not say "in my home, the kids are already fixated to a computer screen and they are already used to entertaining themselves". You can always change bad habits. From now on, when you get back home, even if your child is sitting in front of a computer, sit next to them. Give them a feeling that you are there for them. Even if initially your child stays fixated to their computer screen or immersed in their personal affairs, persist with your new strategy. Keep on sitting next to them. Eventually, that will have an effect and you will achieve the feeling of partnership described above. This feeling of partnership will substantially decrease tensions, fears, frustrations and anxiety, and will significantly increase their self esteem and sense of worth.

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Help For Parents Suffering From Empty Nest Syndrome

16/12/2008 by

By Helene Rothschild

Do you have children who left, or will soon leave home to venture out into the world on their own? Congratulations! You have done your job well of preparing them for life as independent adults. However, if you feel lonely, and/or suffering from illness, or pain that won't go away no matter what you do, you may need help dealing with the Empty Nest Syndrome.

For example, Paul and his only child, Gary, were very close. They both loved to construct things, fix cars, and read mechanical magazines. His wife was an artist and was not really interested in technical things. Paul had previously been laid off at his technical job and missed connecting with his co-workers. His dear friends had moved to other states, and he was not actively seeking new ones. This behavior is typical of introverts.

Paul's wife finally convinced him to have a session with me, after suffering with fever, low energy, and unexplained pain for eight months. He had gone to many doctors and no matter what treatment they recommended, he still felt miserable.

I used my intuition to quickly uncover the cause of his physical problems. I told Paul that I felt he was terrified that his son was going off to college and he would be very lonely. Paul immediately responded by saying, "That's it! That is exactly how I am feeling!" The 55-year-old man could not hold back the many tears of sadness for the loss he felt in his heart.

By the end of the hour, Paul felt much better. Through the HART processes I developed, he was able to heal his loneliness issues from his childhood that were being triggered by his son leaving the nest. He also had a plan about how he could become more sociable with others and enjoy a fulfilling life. Paul was very grateful to feel good again. A week later he called me to thank me again, and to tell me that his fever stopped immediately after the session. He felt great! In fact, he was enjoying helping his son prepare for his departure.

Another client who suffered from the empty nest syndrome is Paula. This 58-year-old mother of six children was struggling with her health. She was being treated for chronic dizziness and depression. During our session, I discovered that her husband was a good provider but emotionally unavailable. Unfortunately, I hear this complaint very often. How sad it is that men were taught not to feel or express their emotions. As in many cases, her husband wanted to be physically intimate more often, but she pushed him away because of his unkind comments and lack of loving, emotional intimacy.

Paula's 6th child was going to move into his own apartment in a few months. She felt very sad and extremely depressed. "I have always taken care of others. I do not know who I am," Paula blurted out in despair. She only knew herself as a daughter, wife, and mother.

Using the HART processes, I helped her release her negative beliefs about others and herself, and she felt much better. I also encouraged her to do the things she loved and focus on taking care of her needs and wants. Once she cut the fear-based "cords" connecting her to her son, she felt instant relief. I told her that she was responsible for her happiness and the more she loved herself and felt fulfilled, the faster her body would be able to heal. I also encouraged her to tell her husband, "It is not you I am rejecting, it is our disharmony." When couples enjoy their loving relationship, they do not need the children around to fulfill them.

At the end of the session, Paula's feelings of hopelessness and depression were replaced with optimism and a clear action plan to help herself feel good. She was ready to be her own person and do what felt fun and fulfilling.

In summary, both parents' physical conditions were likely caused by their deep emotional pain that was triggered by their children leaving their home. I have been working with the mind-body connection for 28 years with great success. For example, I found dizziness to often be signs of fear. Also, in Paula's case, she was out of balance. She was always focusing on taking care of others and neglecting herself.

The body is giving you messages when you feel pain or have a disease. It is important to treat the emotional causes and the physical symptoms to get well and prevent physical problems. To experience good health, do what you can to live a balanced, happy and fulfilled life. Then your children will have great modeling of how to also be healthy and independent. You can then feel great joy and pleasure when your children fly away from the nest.

Copyright 2008 by Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, MFT, a Marriage, Family Therapist, intuitive counselor, author, and speaker. Her newest book is, "All You Need Is HART! Create Love, Joy and Abundance-Now!" A unique guide to Holistic And Rapid Transformation. She offers telephone sessions, classes, books, e-books, MP3 audios, CDs, posters, cards, and a free newsletter, Mp3 audio and e-booklet. http://www.lovetopeace.com, 1-888-639-6390.

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Parents – Can You Help Your Kids With ICT?

16/12/2008 by

By Frank McGinty

About ten years ago I came across a 15-year-old student whom I will probably always remember. He was a bright lad. He learned quickly and enthusiastically. He excelled in sports and had set his sights on a career in Health & Fitness.

Yet he had to face a major crisis when the national exams that would win him a place in college loomed. As part of the assessment process, many of his school subjects demanded the submission of reports, assignments and presentations using multi-media formats.

Now, this lad was well up to the mark in his knowledge and intelligence. But he had studiously avoided learning about the new information and communication technologies that seemed to be taking over the school. He used to boast that he was 'a technology-free zone'. He hated computers, and no one should ever give him a laptop because he would be unable to resist the temptation to hurl it from the nearest window!

And yet. . . Time passed and he was 'caught short'. He lagged behind his peers in ICT skills. Up 'til then he had managed to 'get by', asking or even paying his friends to type up and format his reports for him. But when the exams loomed and everyone was under the same pressure, they had no time to help out.

Fortunately, he was able to take a crash course and his natural intelligence, coupled with his new-found motivation, got him up to speed in time. It almost exhausted him and brought him to the brink of a total breakdown. Yet it could all have been avoided.

The point is, in modern education ICT skills are MUST HAVES for our children. They are no longer add-ons or peripherals.

So what exactly is ICT?

The letters stand for Information & Communication Technologies.

  • Information technology (IT) is the term used to describe the equipment (hardware) and computer programs (software) that allow us to access, retrieve, store, organize, manipulate, and present information by electronic means.
  • Communication technology (CT) is the term used to describe telecommunications equipment through which information can be sought and accessed; for example, telephones, video equipment, modems, and computers.

In schools and colleges they have taken on importance in not just the administration area, but in the educational process itself. Both teachers and students must be able to type, format and present information through a variety of media, including audio and video.

Many parents quake at the thought of using ICT. (But if you are reading this on a computer you are way ahead!) The problem for many, however, is that ICT changes so fast and they feel left out or left behind in this Brave New World. They then become frustrated and unable to help their children.

But there's good news. It's never too late to start - or, for that matter, too early - and the younger children are, the quicker they can pick up knowledge and skills without becoming fazed or intimidated.

Thankfully, the toys and games industry has delivered 'big time' in the provision of items and accessories to help children cope with the demands of 21st century education. The range of learning or educational toys and games is nothing short of phenomenal.

If you feel left behind, or even if you feel you've kept apace with modern developments, wouldn't you be glad to give your kids a head start in the awesome opportunities of education and ICT? Look into the wonderful world of learning toys and you'll be both reassured and amazed.

Would you like to know more and give your kids the best possible start in their education? Frank McGinty has researched the best learning toys for you here. You can also pick up a free report to boost your kids' concentration at school from http://concentration.fssgold.com

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